What happens when a partner is trying to "do better" but still feels emotionally unreachable? In this episode, Kathryn and Chase unpack the “Good Guy” persona: the partner who wants to move forward after betrayal, but often shuts down, avoids conflict, or stays stuck in shame. While they may look calm on the outside, their inability to emotionally engage can leave the hurting partner feeling more alone than ever. Whether you’re the partner trying to rebuild trust or the one desperate to feel emotionally safe again this conversation will help you understand: Why withdrawal and avoidance are trauma responses not signs of indifference How shame blocks true emotional presence What emotional regulation actually looks like during repair How to stay engaged without becoming overwhelmed or defensive The difference between "not doing anything wrong" and actually creating connection You'll also hear examples, a practical repair script, and why “staying calm” isn’t the same as staying close.
🔄 This episode pairs powerfully with The Activated Partner: Loving Through the Fear of Disconnection.
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