In emotionally intense relationships, especially those impacted by relational trauma or attachment wounds, one partner often finds themselves in the role of “The Activated Partner.” This is the one who feels everything, notices the emotional distance first, and sometimes gets labeled as “too much” simply for caring deeply. But beneath the protest is something so human: fear of disconnection. In this episode, Kathryn and Chase take you inside the emotional world of the Activated Partner; their thoughts, their body’s signals, and the longing that drives the intensity. You’ll hear why activation isn’t about control, it’s about protection. And you'll explore the vulnerable truths that often get buried beneath the reactivity. Together, they’ll guide you through: What activation really is and how it shows up in relationships The difference between protest and vulnerability (with role-play examples) How past relational wounds, like abandonment or emotional neglect, fuel present panic Practical tools to regulate in the moment and communicate without escalating How partners can respond with empathy, not defensiveness “Voice of the Partner” monologues that bring both sides of the dynamic to life Emotional translation tools and shared language to build safety A powerful reflection on what might happen if we stayed instead of shutting down Whether you’re the one who panics or the one who pulls away, this episode offers insight and practical help for building connection without shame or shutdown. 🔄 Pairs well with Episode: The Good Guy and the Disconnect 📄 Download: What My Protest Is Trying to Say 📘 Download: Repair Loop Script